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Is It Easy to Meet the Person
of Your Dreams?
Unfortunately not, just like in real life. In most cases it comes down
to perseverance and luck. The Internet, however, does give you the
benefit of a huge group of potential single people to choose from
and few of the usual social barriers, so your chances of meeting the
right person are greatly improved.
Sure there are many people who have fallen in love with and
married the first person that they have met via the Internet, so it
does happen for some people, but almost certainly will prove a bit
harder for the majority of people. Just as in real life, you meet
various people, have fun, and have the odd heartbreak along the
way before (hopefully) meeting your soulmate. In fact, technically
the Internet vastly improves your chances of meeting and falling in
love with the first person you meet; such is the power of the
information available to you via the Internet. There are no
guarantees, except for one; if you don’t give it a try you won’t
succeed.
For the more introverted people out there, the Internet is a
godsend. It’s not uncommon to date ten times as many people from the Internet as you have met in normal social settings, and turn
down even more than that.
What Type of People Will I Meet?
One of the great aspects of the Internet is the seemingly limitless
variety of people you can meet. Anyone from the boy/girl next-door
type, Elvis fanatics, astronauts, fellow stamps collectors or worm
farmers, and it’s not unheard of to find the occasional supermodel
or celebrity. This is generally in stark contrast to the normal club/pub/social circle routine in which you will mostly meet the same
kind of people from the same social set again and again.
Although the world of Internet users is almost infinite in scope,
when it comes to Internet dating here are few ‘personality types’
you might encounter. By no means take this list seriously; it’s just a
light-hearted look at some generalisations.
The average Internet dater
Just your average person, with an average job, a normal social circle
and a well-adjusted lifestyle genuinely looking for Mr/Ms Right.
The vast majority of people on the Internet personals scene fall
under this category. Maybe they are just like you?
The serial daters
These people just need to have someone to go out with every night
of the week. Most of them are just out for fun and like meeting
people to the extreme.
The swingers
These people are after a good time plain and simple, and they usually
won’t be shy about it in their profile. Casual affair, fling, call it what
you will; if this is what you are looking for then you’ll find no
shortage of takers on the Internet. You will be able to spot them a
mile away, they won’t be afraid to tell you what they want.
The chat freaks
These people live their lives in a virtual world; they spend their entire
day and night in chat rooms, and will generally only meet in real
life at chat room social functions, often organised by them. The
world of Internet chat rooms is their domain; enter at your own
risk. They generally ignore newbies anyway.
The contact collectors
These types of people never want to meet; they just want to have as
many people on their email list as possible. A lot of times they won’t
even return email, they will just add you to their list. Can usually be spotted
by the phrase, “I like making new email buddies,” in their profile.
The cyberers
Are just after cyber sex. You will find them lurking in seedy chat
rooms, and they’ll usually send you a chat request saying, “wanna
cyber?” or, “what are you wearing?” Each to their own. Entertain
them or just plain ignore them, it’s your choice.
The fakers
Are not who they appear to be. They use a fake name, fake photo,
lie on their profiles, and just enjoy being someone else. These people
are a hindrance to serious Internet daters. Luckily they can be
spotted, and very rarely agree to meet in real life.
The window shoppers
People who place a profile ‘just for the fun of it’. They like seeing
who will reply, but have no real intention of ever meeting or taking
it further. These can include people who are ‘just curious’, and want
to check out what it’s all about before getting serious.
Inhibitions Go Out the Window
You will quickly learn that on the Internet people are much more
open and willing to reveal almost anything. The feeling of being
behind a computer screen tricks your subconscious into revealing
much more than you would under normal circumstances. This is
most often the case within chat rooms when people are thinking
and typing in real time. They really let their hair down and give
little thought to what they are actually revealing.
This can have its benefits and it’s pitfalls. It’s great for you in
that you can potentially find out a lot of additional information about
people, which can help decide if they are the one for you. On the
other hand you can accidentally reveal personal information about
yourself that you may never have intended to. It can happen to
anyone, beware.
Use this to your advantage to find out as much as possible about
the person you are talking to. You can never have too much
information when you are looking for Mr/Ms Right.
Credit Card Security
Serious Internet dating will often require a credit card and a
willingness to use it online. Many people will be naturally scared at
such a prospect, but in reality this is completely unfounded. Quite
simply, credit cards are safer than cash.
Virtually all websites that accept credit cards online are securely
encrypted and run by large reputable businesses, and the chance of
your credit card number being stolen is almost non-existent.
However, even if your credit card number is stolen (a very remote
possibility), you have little to worry about. You are usually not liable
for any costs incurred if it is stolen. The merchant (the company
supplying the goods or services) is usually responsible for all debts
incurred with stolen credit cards. This is why you hear that ‘Credit
Card fraud is costing the industry millions per year’. The key word
there is that the ‘industry’ loses, you the consumer do not lose a
cent, except maybe for an increased cost in goods due to factors
like credit card fraud.
All you have to do is check your statement each month and report
any transactions that you know you did not make. Note, however,
that your credit card will most likely be cancelled and you will be
issued with a new number, so it is an inconvenience at worst.
If you have any doubts concerning credit card security, contact
your credit card supplier. Many people (myself included) have a
separate credit card that they use specifically for use online. It can
be used to pay for your Internet service provider, Internet dating
costs, and online shopping. This way if your credit card number is
stolen then it is only your online activities that are inconvenienced
and not your regular credit card bills and day-to-day lifestyle. A
separate card also makes it easier to track what you have spent.
If you are willing to pay for Internet dating then you will have
more success.
Misconceptions
Misconceptions about Internet dating abound due to the media,
early social stigma, and incorrect assumptions from people who
know nothing about Internet dating.
By and large, most of these misconceptions are all but buried,
and Internet dating is pretty much accepted in today’s modern
society. In fact, it is now at a point where it is relatively uncommon
not to know someone who has had some experience with Internet
dating, or has already met their partner via the Internet.
The Male/Female Ratio
It was only a few years ago when the Male/Female ratio on some
Internet dating sites was 90% or more in favour of males. Males
had to fight tooth and nail for the few females brave enough to enter.
It was not uncommon for a female to receive hundreds of emails on
the very first day that she placed her profile, or to be swamped by
chat requests as soon as entering a room.
I’m glad to report that things are now totally different, and the
Male/Female ratio is closer to 50/50 on most large sites. In fact, on
some sites the women complain that there aren’t enough decent
guys. But, as with real life, guys are generally always on the back
foot and have to work much harder to get a date. Girls have it much
easier than guys when it comes to just getting a date, but quality
dates are an each-way bet.
Techniques of Successful
Internet Daters
Successful Internet daters love competition online, and actually
use the inexperienced people to their advantage.
How do they do this?
For starters, they have their technique down pat, and it makes
them look really attractive. In contrast, inexperienced people can
appear unattractive, which in turn makes the successful people look
and sound even better than they really are!
There are a few rules to being successful at Internet dating:
• Don’t do, say or show anything that makes you look generally
unattractive or stupid.
• Know who and what you are looking for, and don’t be afraid to
say it.
• Be persistent, and play the numbers game.
• Stand out from the competition
Sounds easy and obvious, but this whole book is about getting it
right. The detail that can go into getting it right will amaze you.
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